Unbreakable Hope Hagerty

It all happened while I was watching Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. Yeah, I know. I thought the show was absolutely ridiculous at first but my roommate started watching it and I had just finished all of the Harry Potter movies so I was without a series. Anyway, if you don't know what the show is about, I'll give you a brief summary. A woman named Kimmy was kidnapped and kept inside of a bunker for 15 years by a man posing a preacher who told all the women in the bunker that the apocolypse had happened and they were the last ones on earth. It sounds dark but it's actually really light hearted and incredibly goofy and in true Tina Fey fashion full of satire. The women are rescued and Kimmy moves to New York for a fresh start and despite spending most of her life in a bunker held captive by a crazy person who told her she was garbage all of the time, her spirit and joy are unbreakable. Yeah, this is already embarrassing me too.

Anyway, there is a part in which the preacher tries to tell Kimmy she is a "garbage person" and she begins to argue with him and he says something along the lines of, "One of these days I am going to break you." and Kimmy responds with joyful defiance, "No you won't". That has been my life this week. Or if I am going to be honest, most of my twenties.

This week I have been fighting for my identity. I have been fighting for the truth of who I am. I have been fighting to stand up and say I am worth it. I have been fighting the crap life throws and saying, "Oh no you won't."

I got rejected recently (see my last post for how I reacted to that). And it really, really hurt. My life has not turned out at all how I thought it was going to. And this rejection brought up some ugly hurts that have buried themselves deep in my heart. I sometimes wonder how I ended up quite where I am and I then I go oh yeah, remember all of those life altering things that happened in the last few years, yeah, that's how you ended up here. I have tried with all of my might to not consider myself a victim because quite frankly, despite the rough parts, I really love my life and because there are people in much worse circumstances. But I would be doing a discredit to the redemptive power of God, the loyalty of my friends and the resilience of my own Spirit if I did not fully acknowledge that I have been presented with some challenges and some real hurts that could have easily side-lined me. But they haven't. Here I am world, standing tall, unbreakable.


However, this week has been a fight for my identity. It has been a fight to see the value in who I am. I recently had a very significant encounter with Holy Spirit when I met the newborn son of some dear friends of mine. Peter is his name and we are great friends :) The first time I held Peter I was overwhelmed with an awe-inspiring awareness of how much God values me. As I held Peter, I knew that I loved him instantly and I honestly had been loving him before I even met him. Not because of his merits or works but because he as a person holds immense value. For the rest of his life, no matter what he does, nothing will ever take away from the awe I felt for him in that moment. And that is how God thinks of you every second of every day, all of the time! Honestly, He thinks even higher of you, because I am not a parent and if I can feel that way, than God's love must be about a million times more significant.

Just dwell on that for a second. You are SO loved that God made you just to love you and then moved Heaven and Earth to win your heart so you can be with Him in joy and truth and freedom and on top of that, He STILL shows up to comfort you and love you and tell you that you can do it. All of that is motivated by a heart of love that has seen you the same since the moment your born, at your highest high and lowest low. That is a some crazy big love.

I really let this revelation sink into my heart for a few weeks. I talked about it at Bible study. I even shared a Facebook live video about it. I am really grateful that God showed me that truth and I thought I would be perfectly content just sitting in awe of that for a while. And then I faced some rejection and waves of past hurt and trauma and insecurity came flooding at me. Suddenly I was sobbing and asking God what was wrong with me and where had I missed it? This is not my typical behavior.

The last few days have been interesting. I truly love my life. I am in awe of the things I get to do. I am full of hope and promise and the truth of God's goodness so I could not understand why tears seemed to be so near the surface. And while watching Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, I think I actually figured it out.

I had been allowing outward examples of "failure" or lack of success influence my own idea of my worth. I had forgotten the victories that God had already won for me and the battles I had come out of stronger. There are areas of lack in my life and things that I am not proud of. I have a big mouth sometimes that can get me in lots of trouble. I have a temper. I can sometimes be rash. When I feel a lot, which is basically all of the time, I am not one of those people that can throw themselves into work. Feelings make me physically tired which is really inconvenient. I have chosen my own mental and emotional health over what I "owe" someone else, every time. I resist anything that feels like confinement and would honestly, willingly be alone if that was only way to be free (Praise the Lord it is NOT!! Again, see last post). From a worldly standard, I have not been very successful post-college.

But you know what else, I have felt pain and come out more whole. I have seen despair and come out hopeful. I have faced many things. I have failed in many ways. I have forgiven easily and sometimes held onto bitterness. I have dug my feet for way longer than necessary and I have fallen on my knees exposing my weakness to the only One who can save me from myself. And I refuse to be side-lined or broken. I refuse to believe the lies that my worth is any less. I refuse to give up the freedom and courage and identity that Jesus fought so hard to give me. I needed the truth of God's immense, far-reaching, overpowering, unending love and acceptance to sink so deep in my heart, that no amount of rejection or failure can throw me. As I was watching this show I realized, that I am unbreakable, not because of my fight but because God already won it. I don't have to fight it anymore, I just have to be and let the truth sink in. I will not be broken. I will not listen to that "Garbage person" voice. Because I am Unbreakable Hope Hagerty.

So today, I put on some worship music and took a nap. Yeah, I fell asleep and let the God of the universe comfort my soul and speak to my heart. Because He loves me that big.

You don't need to listen to the Garbage Person voice in your life either. There are things that each of us battle with in terms of our worth. Whether it is your job or your weight or your looks or your relationship or lack there of or your own failures or your family or whatever it is that is yelling at you to be silent, to sit down and to stop. They will not break you because you are Unbreakable.

So if you are serious about this, write your new title down somewhere. Somewhere you will see it. You are Unbreakable Blankity Blank. And then let the truth of the immense love of God sink in. Let Him tell you are worth it. Let Him tell you that you can do it. Let Him remind you of your victorious past and your brilliant future. Let Him heal the rejection, the insecurities and the pain. Let Him tell you what you are capable of and how valuable you are.

Jesus won the battle. He has done it. And He did it for me. He did it for you too. God looked at me and said "She is so worth it." And I am letting God have the final say on that.